Daughters can seem remote at times, though you've probably known them since birth. Assuming you've known your 'partner' all her life could be a mistake. A partner can walk out of your life any time, married or not; daughters never. They're stuck with you, genetically at least. "For better or worse" is true in their case, even if they ignore you. The same applies "for richer or poorer" hopefully.
For your kids, you are the key to what went wrong or right in the past: a piece of evidence that predates them. In the case of romance and relationships, one usually turns up long after a partner's first passions or loves. Accepting you is a retrospective fit: something you try to live up to. Like reality, you are constantly challenged and tested. Survival dosen't disprove the fact that you weren't there from the start; it merely compounds it.
There's an ambiguity about love, define it how you will, especially when it dwells on the future. Partners may believe you'll change one day; daughters know you never will.
In general, loving a girlfriend/wife/partner plus a daughter or two covers all angles - without making life any simpler or (let's face it) comprehensible.
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